Tale of the Side cake – “The well kept secret” – PART 2

…word is that to cheat maybe human but not to be caught is divine so when you set out to be a mans accomplise in cheating and betraying his wife and family be sure you will be caught and when that day comes you will face the wrath and then again, what goes around comes around…Karma is gladly waiting to bite..I wrote this previously sometime last year, today is an addition to the tale…

If you are dating a married man, you are definitely not alone. Affairs are a reality and have been since the beginning of time. However, just because something is common does not make it right. Dating a married man is fraught with difficulties and heartbreak for not only yourself, but everyone who is affected. Nonetheless, life is not always cut and dried and you may feel that you have mitigating circumstances that make the situation less concrete. See ladies and women giving me a duck face acting like this is news…hell yeah you and you and you know very well what am about to say here is some gospel truth engulfing this vodka and rebul generation, well here is my take

The caveat is that you probably do not have a future with a man who is in this situation. For one reason or another, he is content with the status quo. Unless there is a very specific, time-limited situation that needs to be resolved before his divorce, he may choose to remain married indefinitely. If you are looking for marriage, you may be better off not dating a married man, in my opinion dating a married man carefully cuts you out to be a little well-kept secret, a side cake whose position is the back seat whereas there is another woman who is set to shine while you watch and swallow the bitter pill.
Now, if you find yourself under such a situation, then you know what’s happening. Your friends have told you what to expect. Your family, or at least the members who know of your predicament, have told you to desist from the same. But you didn’t listen to them. You believe that the heart perceives the truth, and your heart is telling you to fight for your love, a worthless Love that will not bear any fruits unless the man adheres to the tradition of polygamy and legally makes you a known wife, not a secret but a well-accepted and received wife whom everyone acknowledge, everything short of that is not worth settling for.

So the reality is you will set out and love this man, give him your all and appreciate him the best way you can, then one day he walks away and you are left craving and yearning for the many anniversaries you never had, the many wake up together you never shared, the simple goofy breakfast mornings and many others which you will have lost and will never regained….so the result is a severe heartbreak that affects your mental stability, a wasted youth that went down submitting in a worthless relationship and finally a lonely life that is full of regrets!

Dating a married man entails a lot of restrictions. You cannot be seen in public places together. He could only call when he could find the time away from his family and friends. You cannot visit him at the workplace. These can be too much to bear for anyone, Though you should be hailed for the capacity of your heart to extend such amount of love, you will receive no praises. You cannot have him all for yourself, you know that much. And though it takes an extraordinary kind of love to pursue such a course, you will still encounter a lot of pains along the way, there is high possibility of being pointless if he’s not even contemplating on leaving his spouse. And even if he is indeed thinking about filing a divorce, you would still have to live with the guilt of being a party to a process that ruined a family.

When you set out to Love a married man you shall be beat down, you shall be bruised; you shall be scorned, you shall be shamed. Yet through your hurts, through your pain; the Love in your hearts will be in vain…Don’t give in to the foolish temptation that doesn’t want you to accept that he doesn’t belong with. You are a fool for opening your heart to Love that is not yours.

You are not being judged in the above, you are merely collated and presented some truths which you should know, or truths which you already know though you’d rather not think about them because you are deeply in love where your heart shouldn’t be

But as they say, regret is the act of realizing things belatedly. Conjure enough strength to face the true issues, and perhaps, you won’t have to regret the acts you are doing today…

In the words of my dear and very wise grandmother “if you cannot Make Him Yours and have a legal paper and ring on your finger then Get out of this Addiction Fast because you are simply an ornamental and will be discarded when the times comes”

Well this are my thoughts…sue me if you want, I have said what I wanted to say.

Good day.


2 thoughts on “Tale of the Side cake – “The well kept secret” – PART 2

  1. Valid thoughts eloquently put…but valid to only non-Muslim audience…kindly, by the same depth comment on “side cake” love on a Muslim married man, to any woman….would it be as vain?

    • Note my remarks “…unless the man adheres to the tradition of polygamy and legally makes you a known wife”clearly explains that I do not oppose or stand against polygamy, the issue being adressed is affairs and secret relationships with married man, so unless a man makes you legally his second wife, its really not worth a chase.

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