In June by the Grace of God I will be 30…Third floor you All!!!
I will have lived three decades on planet earth, God has been merciful. When you reach my age, it’s inevitable that you reflect more deeply about what’s left of your life. You review where you came from, consider how you got here, and wonder where you’re going next.
In my case, I realize how much more deeply I am trusting God — clinging to God — than I ever did as a younger woman In some ways I “knew” so much more then and I am learning to appreciate ME, appreciate life and to be better.
God and I have been on a long journey together with many twists and turns, ups and downs, falls and rises!!!. I believe I have come to a good place, and I hope to keep going because I am enjoying the journey more than ever. And I know I would not be where I am now without all the varied experiences I’ve had.
Even so, I often find myself wishing I could tell my younger self some things about how life really works, about what’s real and true, and thereby dissolve some of the harmful preconceptions and assumptions I had way back then. That is a frustrating impossibility, but it’s worth thinking about.
Here, in hopes that it might be helpful to you on your own journey, are 30 things I wish I could tell my younger self:
1.Time is Key and important, respect peoples time, it’s VERY important.
2. Life is good. Not always, but mostly. And when it is not so good, be assured it will get better, remember the glass is always half full…
3.Pray more, there is so much power in prayer and finding solace in God.
4. You are terrific just as you are. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t work on your rough edges and areas of ignorance and inexperience, there is always room to improve.
5. Forgive. Forgive. And forgive again. You may never forget, but for your own sake, forgive. And try to forget.
6. It’s a good thing that we don’t know everything that’s going to happen to us. If I had known all the pains and heartaches I would encounter in life, even amidst the joys and victories, it would surely have been too much to bear.
7. If you tend to be shy or afraid, try your best to overcome it. Take it a step at a time, but work at it. It is a gift to get to know new people, especially those who are different from you in some way, culturally, ethnically, religiously. Pushing yourself out of your comfort zone may be painful for a time, but the benefits are everlasting.
8. Your hard work in school will be worth it. But come on, don’t kill yourself.
9. It may not be easy to stand up and speak out for what’s important to you, but you will be amazed how empowering, and important, it can be, always stand up for what you believe in.
10. Keep exercising, eating well, and healthy living in balance. Schedule rest and recreation regularly. The older you get, the more you’ll understand why, if you are tired take a break.
11. Be grateful. Gratitude leads to more happiness and wellbeing. Even scientists say so.
12. Sometimes bad things happen to good people. Sometimes very bad things happen to very good people. We will never fully understand this, but we may catch a glimpse of the why someday, its just life, take it as it comes.
13.Love takes time, be patient everything happens for a reason, marriage is a beautiful thing but the lack of it isn’t a failure in life…BE PATIENT, these things take time.
14.When you do connect deeply with one person, be serious about it. Work at it. Be open and honest with your significant other. It is a rare and wondrous thing to be in relationship, so make every effort to preserve and improve and deepen it.
15.READ,read, read…books are for champions
16. Accept yourself as God made you. I spent too many years fighting this battle and it took a long time to surrender, and by that time it carried extremely painful ramifications. How I wish I could tell the young me that it is okay to be true to yourself. Because God does not make mistakes and you are a perfect piece of artwork.
17.Heartbreaks are a part of living, learn from them and move on, let them not stop you from loving again.
18. You have to be your own top priority.
19. Nothing is worth sacrificing your health.
20. The people around you should be those who love you and support your growth.
21. You are on a journey, which means things will change. Even important things will change, sometimes shockingly. But it is a nevertheless a good journey, and it’s worth every step.
22. But sometimes, for any number of reasons, it is time to move on, for your sake or theirs, or both. Recognize this, RESPECT this and accept it.
23. Your parents truly love you and want the best for you. Listen to them. Trust them. Love them. Honor them. But realize you will soon be on your own, and that’s a good thing, YOUR MOTHER IS A QUEEN, pray for her.
24. Try not to be so gullible. Trust, but verify — with independent, objective sources, not mouthpieces for particular viewpoints or axes to grind.
25. You will have a tendency toward complacency. Resist this, its a lie and doesn’t exist.
26. Be curious. Try new things. Strive for something that stretches you. Of course, there’s a limit to this, so be careful, very careful.
27. Engage in self-reflection, but don’t let it become self-deception. Sometimes you will need to talk things over with a trusted person, thats ok too, its human.
28. Don’t ruminate on how others have hurt you. Feel your feelings, but let them slip away. Move on.
29. Be a positive influence in any way you can. Even simple little helpful acts can make others and you much happier, everyone has their own battles they fight, be kind.
30. There are some people in your life you will never understand, and maybe not even like. Make the best of it. But if you realize they are harming you, avoid them. Don’t let them suck the air out of your spirit.
Actually, my younger self, I cannot tell you anything, let alone these well thought of and well put 30 things. So try your best to figure this all out on your own as soon as you can. Learn from your mistakes. And live so that someday you won’t have to wish you could tell your younger self anything.
To life, to beautiful stories and to glorious living…to the best of me yet!